How did I end up writing erotica and why do I write erotica? To know the answer, you will have to go back to the year 2009.
It was January, and I was excited that a new year dawned a new beginning, but I didn’t expect to be fired, unjustly. But when I was fired, I grew bitter that I worked for a company trying hard to show love for my job, yet it conflicted with my personality. In addition, I was beginning to discover more of myself. I am rebellious, not because I want to be against the establishment. I realized I can’t conform to someone else’s ways. I was never an ass-kisser and I’m not the type to take that shit, but I knew that I didn’t fit in with the job. I spent the entire year, working two jobs to make ends meet and at that time I wanted to find a better way than to just be a pee-on, or whatever these assholes perceived me.
In the late spring of 2009, I came up with the idea of AfterDark Online. At that time, I wanted to come up with a site to sell adult products, porn videos, lingerie, toys and other stuff, but I didn’t have the capital to come across with something to start with. However, I did come across with another idea a year later, but that idea didn’t happen until I discovered writing.
When I was laid off from one of my jobs in early 2010, I had a lot of time on my hands and I needed to find something that defined me. I was growing miserable. It was one of the darkest periods in my life, because I was depressed of where my life was and I wanted to find something that was me. I was on the phone with my father, and he mentioned to me that I used to write often and I should pick it back up. I laughed it off at that time, telling him it was a phase, and I’ve been away from writing for so long that I didn’t think I would ever get back. However, things began to change when I visited a site that involved erotic stories.
I cam across a site called Lush Stories. There were a number of stories, ranging from m/f to taboo erotica, like incest and all sorts of kinks. I came across several that were really good. I was open-minded about what I wrote, but then there came two stories I read that inspired; one written by a female that regarded to having anonymous sex, and the other was by a man who really upset me and gave me a reason to pick up a keyboard and write.
The woman who wrote the anonymous sex story was the best of all. It was quick and hot. The man who wrote his story was a taboo story, but he was using derogatory comments in there that made male writers look bad. I said to myself, what the fuck is up with these misogynistic bastards when they write a sex story. There were male authors who want to play the alpha male, the dominant, but don’t know the first thing of appealing to female readers. I commented to him that his story sucked, because I wasn’t feeling it. He later messaged me (of course, he was ticked), and told me to come up with a better story.
It was then I decided on a my first story. I wrote my very first threesome story in 2010. I was rusty – very rusty. I knew the difference between a noun and pronoun and adverbs, but I felt like I had to take an eighth grade course again on sentence structure. I lost touch with it for thirteen years and never thought how important it was, but I was determined.
I wrote my first story, which was rough around the edges. It was a threesome story involving two women and a man for his birthday. I didn’t think I had the visual to write, but I did it. The story was completed on my 34th birthday, and I was inspired to write more of it. My passion for writing erotic began and everything else was history.
In October 2010, I founded AfterDark Online, officially. The site was officially launched to be a story submission site. I hung around Twitter in order to get correspondence, and it did pay off. I was pleased of the results. My first published story, was Lonely Hearts, a story about two lonely people that discover they were neighbors. By 2011, I had stories submitted to AfterDark Online.
The year 2011 was really the year that jumpstarted my writing career. All I wanted to do was write. I didn’t know where I was going, but the feeling was there. It was then I was introduced to my first writing group and then got involved with other authors and poets. My true discovery was by an author, Dawne Prochilo. I purchased one of her books called Room 11. This story was then a mark of something that made me want to write in a style like hers; tell the story, bring the romance and add the sex into it. I also wanted to be very descriptive, because I’ve read from other authors that they weren’t putting any real sex into it.
When I learned from authors they were publishing their book, I too wanted to come across one. My first published book didn’t happen until September 16, 2011, when I published Their First Night Together. It was my very first indie-published book about two friends that were denied the moment of spending their first night together. Although the story itself was very rough around the edges; I had no one to help me edit, not many took me seriously until the day I published it. Then I was discovered by other authors who helped me with advice. I also remembered Author Don Abdul when he was an indie author, long before he signed up with a publisher. We first spoke briefly in 2011. I even picked up a book by him A Hero’s Due. Great story. I’m glad I’m not the only male author that wanted to appeal to women, but he and I have two different styles.
From 2012 - present, I kept writing erotica. I knew this was who I was. I thought for a moment I was strange and weird. I didn’t want to feel ashamed of who I was, an erotic author, but I was also careful who I mentioned it to. My father didn’t seemed bothered by it. He told me ‘sex sells’, and if I could sell a book that’s good. Just don’t give up was what he told me. My longtime girlfriend, or wife to say was fine with it. She was very helpful with what I wrote. Although, she isn’t into reading it; it’s not her forte and I can understand, but she was the most supportive.
Now there were a few controversies I came across with; some from over-opinionated readers and then just haters. I came across one criticism about not using realism in my stories and characters not using condoms during sex scenes. At first, I though I should in order to explain the realism effect, but by 2015, I realized that there were too many authors who were trying to appease to these asshole-minded people. I’m sorry, I couldn’t find a nicer way to put it. These are people who get so deeply into the character, and if the character doesn’t make them feel related, or if the character doesn’t use protection in a fictional story they rag down on an author. I learned that those aren’t my fans, and I’d rather lose those assholes than to lose a true fan of my work.
When I write erotica, I want people to escape into a world of fantasy. I want to add drama into it, which I’m good at writing, but sex is the motivation for all my stories. I want to arouse my readers. Everyone has a sexual fantasy; not many will disclose man, but I want people to escape from the realism and go into a world of sexual fantasies. It doesn’t have to be a novel; a short story is enough to arouse them. It’s how you write it.
My goal as an author to be a best-seller and a successful indie author, but my main goal is to write you something to give you the ability to escape and arouse you. I learned that I’ll get criticized for not being very realistic enough or I write too much sex. That is my intention. I don’t want to aim for realism; only fiction – the key word there, and yes I want my stories to have a heavy number of sex scenes in them. I’m into threesomes, well in my stories, but I love writing erotica and if it wasn’t from erotica, I don’t think I’d be a happy about myself. I knew I had a perverted mind, but to write it for people who love to read it, I’m thankful.