Love Out Of Lust Series

Saturday, March 31, 2012

A Thank You Note to the Contibutors: "A Man's World Interview"

When most people think of a male erotic romance writer they are usually thinking that this man writes a lot of porn, or he is a pervert; he only writes this stuff to express his fantasies to others, or other stereotypical things to discredit his profession. My response to it: it is not true!

After interviewing the men on The AfterDark World for “A Man’s World Interview”, many have learned different backgrounds of a lot of authors. There were men who got into by accident and enjoyed this genre, and some who were in this genre for a long time with a talent of amazing their readers. These are men who are fathers as well as devoted husbands, partners, and boyfriends; men who not only spend time on their writing, but also work at their day jobs, while making a name of their work.

I learned that there are men who come from socially conservative and liberal backgrounds. The men who write in this industry came from many different regions of the world. Whether you come from the Bible Belt of the United States, a small town from United Kingdom, a large city in Australia, or a large town in Canada, we are men who choose to define the purpose of our work. While some judge us or don’t take us seriously, we do.

What I learned about the men in the industry is that we make up about 20% of the authorship in the erotic romance industry. We really don’t feel much pressure about the industry that is dominated by women, but we all differ from a woman’s work; we can never be a woman, right?

I came out with this interview to help others learn about the male authors. However, I wished there were more. I would like to thank the following gentleman for taking the time participating in this event: Steve Tindle, Marcos London, Pablo Michaels, Mike Arsuaga, Michael Alexander, Don Abdul, Michael C. Laney, Brindle Chase, K.T. Bishop, Benjamin Russell, J S Morbius, and Alan Jankowski. Your contribution to this event has meant a lot to AfterDark Online/The AfterDark World.


Ray Sostre

And now, without further ado, I would like to show you my self interview of myself on The AfterDark World.

It is not usual to have an owner of a blog and website to self-interview themselves for others to read, but anything is possible. From the Empire State to the Silver State, that would be from New York to Nevada. Ray Sostre joins the AfterDark World for  “A Man’s World Interview.”

1. Ray, thank you for taking the time out for this interview. Please, why don’t tell us a little bit about yourself?

I’m the founder of AfterDark Online and The AfterDark World, a male erotic writer that enjoys writing comedy and contemporary, with a twist of sometimes unusual.

2. How long have you been writing and when did you decide writing this genre was for you?

Writing happened by accident in 1990, but I didn’t get serious about my writing until the summer of 2010. I’ve been writing erotica for 2 years.

3. In an industry dominated by women, how you handle the pressure? On top, how do you explain to others about what you write?

It’s an honor to be accepted for the work I do. I learned that there are many writers of that genre, and out of 8 women who write erotica, 2 of them are men and I really feel no pressure. How I explain what I do, I just tell it like it is. I have no shame about what I write, regardless of the judgment that may be pressed against me.

4. How does you family and friends feel about your work?

My father is understanding about it. He has never read my work, but he understands this is what makes me happy and has encouraged me to continue on. My mother is old-fashioned. She doesn’t enjoy what I write, but I’m a grown person and she knows I’m going to do what I want, lol. My woman of seven years is an awesome woman. She has been supportive of my work since day one. Some of my family and friends are aware of what I write, but it looks like they’re pretty cool about it. Especially in a closed community of where I live.

5. Is there a particular genre you haven’t touched, but would be interested in doing?

BDSM was what I had in mind. It seems pretty interesting to me, even though it is not my full forte

6. Tell us about your latest book The Girl Upstairs.?

The story is about a man named Carlos who moved out of New York City into a small town in Pennsylvania where he met his sexy neighbor from upstairs named Bella, and gets to know her more, while dealing with an over-protective brother, who is a cop, and an abusive ex-boyfriend who just got out of jail.

7. What inspired you to write The Girl Upstairs?

I was inspired by this song from The Rza “La Rumba”, if anyone is a fan of the Wu-Tang Clan you’ll know who am I talking about. Originally it was written in July 2011 about a man who moved into an apartment building, where he lived under his sexy neighbor’s apartment while hearing strange erotic noises at night. Two months later, I revamped the story into a “hero erotic romance” and added the secondary characters.

8. Do you have any upcoming projects that you wish to share?

I’m currently working on a story named “Finding Possibilities”. It is an erotic romance story about a woman who just turned forty and meets a young man at the bar, where they share a romantic time together.

I’m also working on a five or six-part series to “Suburbian Secrets”. The story is about a woman named Felicia who decides to have an open-marriage, but her intentions were really something else in mind.

Also, I’m hosting a contest in partnership with No Boundaries Press and an online blog/magazine Sex Marks The G-Spot called “An Erotic Picture Worth A Thousand Words.” This contest is very fun and unique because every two months a photo is posted on the website, and there are people submitting their entries to win the first place prize a publishing contract with No Boundaries Press.

9. What was one of the toughest projects you have ever faced, but was proud of the accomplishment?

Writing a story is tough, but fun and I love it with all my heart. Especially when I write erotic, but my overall toughest project would be AfterDark Online. I created a site where I had no one responding for a while. I, at the time, didn’t know what I was doing when I created it in the late spring of 2010. I was suffering many losses at the time; my job, a brother in law, a friend, and hope. When AfterDark Online was launched in October 2010, I was trying to define what will make AfterDark Online unique from all the other sites and I didn’t realize it until late last year. And keep in mind, I am still trying to define its difference and uniqueness from all the other sites.

10. What advice would you give to other writers, especially to those that are starting out?

Just because you have one thing figured out, don’t think you know everything. Keep an open mind for everything. Plan A isn’t the only option, because you need to look at Plan B, C, D, and so on. Don’t be afraid to learn something new; everything around you is a game-changer. Surround yourself around positive people, and learn to accept constructive criticism. You may not agree with them, but you can learn from them.

11. Lastly, where can people follow you (i.e. social networks, blogs, websites, etc.)?
 Most obvious is "The AfterDark World" of course... the parent site of AfterDark Online
On Twitter you can find me on: @afterdarkonline or @anarchy0029 (which is my personal account)
On Facebook, you're welcome to friend me, and please follow my fan page: Author Ray Sostre
You can also catch me on LinkedIn.

Time for some trivial questions...

12. Cocktail Moment: If there was a drink of your kind, what would it be (alcoholic or non-alcoholic)?

Red Death: Vodka, Southern Comfort, Sloe Gin, Orange Juice, Rose’s Lime, and Orange Juice. This is the drink of my choice. It tastes damn good, but it sneaks up on you.

13. Your Day Off: If you could take a day off from your normal activity, how would you spend it?

I’m from the east coast and I so miss New York, but I would love to be on the West Coast From San Diego to Bay Area, all the way through Portland and Seattle. I want to be there.

14. Favorite Man Food: It’s your day off and you wake up at 10AM, describe your kind of brunch?

It’s a Meat-Lover’s Skillet, consists of Bacon, Sausage, Ham, Cheese, Jalapeno Peppers, and Potatoes on a Rye Bread. Yum!

15. Something Extra: Is there anything trivial you wish to share to your readers about yourself?

I can be the life of the party, but I’m also a loner many times and prefer to be that way. Overall, I’m very easy-going until someone gets me started.

I want to thank everyone for participating in "A Man's World Interview Event"

              Ray Sostre


  1. Quite an interesting read! Another nice one Ray.

  2. I'll have to try that Meat-Lover's Skillet...all that on rye bread, eh?

    Nice interview, btw...